Family members, we are in this battle for sobriety for your loved one, together. There are certain things that we ask you to do and not to do, to assist in the client’s journey to recovery. We do ask for a written testimony concerning how your life has been throughout the process of addiction and its effects. Please be specific and share any feelings that this time has invoked with honesty. Many addicts do not see that there is pain inflicted on anyone except themselves.
We ask that you trust the staff over the client concerning their addiction
Trust our decisions as to when the student will be ready to go to work, make/receive phone calls, on site or home visits, corrections or disciplinary action or when he will be ready for release. The client must see the staff and family on a 100% unified front that will not be manipulated by the addiction behaviors of the resident. We must prevent a playing one side against the other.
We ask that you always report any unauthorized contact. Any phone calls coming from any place other than Revive LifeHouse & without case manager/staff prior arranging the connection should be of suspect.
Inform Revive LifeHouse of all accounts in the client’s name such as banking, credit cards, or loans. Change address of mail for the client to Revive LifeHouse. In order for us to help we must know the whole situation that has developed.
Encourage them to work the program to its completion of all of the phases.
Please do not encourage disobedience
Please do not encourage the client to leave early or without staff approval. This means tough decisions must be made. Do not give the client a ride out or come pick them up. The addiction may be “speaking” for months. They will never change until the pain of remaining the same is greater than the pain of change.
Do not accept or encourage negative information about the program, the staff, or other clients without approaching staff first.
Please do not complain about what’s going on at home, the bills, the kids, or how difficult it is for you. That will only drive the client out of the program too early. If there is an emergency or immediate need do not to hesitate to let our staff know. We may be able to provide help.
Never give a client any cash, checks, or food stamps without pre-approval from case management staff. Revive LifeHouse must maintain control of all recovery aspects and be fully aware of client’s needs always. If need be, you may send in check or money or to Revive LifeHouse to be placed into the student’s COH (cash on hand) account.